Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role
By Rebecca C. Mandeville, MFT
- Release Date: 2020-08-18
- Genre: Parenting
Description
Therapist Recommended: Family scapegoating is an insidious form of "invisible" abuse that is difficult to recognize. It is therefore critical that adult survivors of dysfunctional or narcissistic family systems understand what type of abuse they are trying to recover from. In Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, Family Systems expert Rebecca C. Mandeville uses her research findings on what she named Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) to help adult survivors recognize and release the damaging 'scapegoat' narrative associated with the family 'identified patient' role. She also emphasizes the importance of being assessed for complex trauma symptoms when healing from FSA. This 2nd revision includes additional recovery suggestions, and updated resources. Also suitable for concerned friends and clinicians.
In these pages you'll discover:
•The FSA Self-Assessment Test
•How to recognize and identify family scapegoating abuse (FSA) signs and symptoms
•Why scapegoated individuals have difficulty recognizing they are being abused
•How complex trauma (C-PTSD), betrayal trauma, and toxic shame impede FSA recovery
•How intergenerational trauma and false narratives fuel family scapegoating dynamics
•Why the family 'Empath' can end up scapegoated
•Strategies to reduce fawning behaviors and realign with your 'true self'
•Recommended resources and therapy modalities for FSA recovery
From the Author: "Scapegoating in any social system is a dehumanizing process of 'othering'. When you are the target of scapegoating in your family-of-origin, the consequences to your mental and emotional health can be severe, including the development of complex trauma (C-PTSD) symptoms. This introductory guide's purpose is to help the reader determine if they are in the 'family scapegoat' role; also, to better understand family scapegoating dynamics and the devastating consequences of being 'rejected, shamed, and blamed' by the people who were supposed to love and care for them the most."
Rebecca C. Mandeville is licensed Marriage, Family Therapist and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. She is a globally recognized thought leader in understanding the consequences of child psycho-emotional abuse and family scapegoating and has published extensively on this form of systemic 'invisible' abuse. Her pioneering work, 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', is the first book ever written on "Family Scapegoating Abuse" or "FSA" (a term she coined during the course of her Family Systems research). Rebecca is also a YouTube Health Partner serving as a recognized Family Systems and Complex Trauma expert via her channel Beyond Family Scapegoating Abuse.
©2020 - 2024 | Rebecca C. Mandeville | All Rights Reserved
Reviews
Amazing & informational
5By Neve1095It was a relief reading this book. If you have endured FSA, you need to read this.Put words to the experience
5By PROUDANDHEALTHYIt’s nice to be able to put words to what I’ve been experiencing as it’s so hard to explain to people. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge.Took the words out of my mouth
5By kornflakez2This book was very eye opening and validating to read! Simple and quick. I recommend to anyone who is looking for further understanding into their CPTSD especially if your parent(s) are narcissistsThis book is so important
5By luciarhymesPhysical wounds are easy to see and defend. But we, most often unknowingly, get talked out of our psychological wounds most of the time, which just perpetuates the said wounds. This book is brilliant. It perfectly explains the experience of psychological tampering and abuse, and the knots that are created in our heads because of the trauma. If you want to detangle your mind, or have understanding and compassion about the scapegoat experience, this is all you need. I’m so grateful this book exists.
