By Aziz Ansari
A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation’s most popular and sharpest comedic voices
At some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it’s wildly different from what people did even just decades ago. Single people today have more romantic options than at any point in human history. With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering. So why are so many people frustrated?
Some of our problems are unique to our time. “Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?” “Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!” “My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who’s Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?”
But the transformation of our romantic lives can’t be explained by technology alone. In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically. A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood. Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were twenty-four. Today, people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate.
For years, Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance, the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analyzed behavioral data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages. They enlisted the world’s leading social scientists, including Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any social science or humor book we’ve seen before.
In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.
Love it5By Loveyouchristina!And I knew I would. Aziz is one of the more smarter comedians in this day and age so I knew that any book written by him would not only be super funny but educational too. I learned and laughed a lot from this book and I'm sure anyone who picks it up will too.
Modern Romance5By Steinman12This book is fantastic. A comedian takes a sociological perspective on today's dating scene and it could not be any more interesting. Aziz did an incredible amount of research for this project and it shows. For me, a lot of this book was very relatable and it helped me realize that I'm not the only person out there feeling and experiencing the same things. This book made me change the way I approach life and that's what a good book is supposed to do.
Interesting and Funny5By EeeeyaaaaahhhLoved it!
FUNNY5By yg_0708I have not finished reading the book, but so far it's hilarious. I can literally imagine, and hear Aziz saying all his remarks in this book. This book was not meant to give you advice in how to get a date, but to state the obvious and make fun of it. If you like Aziz then you will enjoy this book. Highly recommend.
Excellent depiction of romance today.5By Er678Ansari injects comedy into the complicated world of dating and young adulthood. Guaranteed to make you laugh at yourself and his hilarious pop culture references.
Funny and Insightful5By Ya Boy JamesHilarious and all too truthful look at the crazy world of modern dating. Home run for Aziz.
AMAZING!5By DonnieD4kumThis is the first book I'm reading in a long while and by far the best!! Wow! This has opened my mind so much to what is going on today. Unbelievably exciting read! Would definitely recommend this to anyone
Oh, Modern Romance!5By XOGabbszAbsolutely great read! I'm so glad I picked this! I have a better understanding of whyyyyy Romance today is the way it is. From the studies to the comedy, Aziz did his thing!
Great read!!5By MandyprodancerI could chalk this up with all other self-help books on relationships and just let it simmer in mediocrity, but I can't. It would not do this book justice. This book is a hilarious and honest take on romance in the 21st century, more specifically, this current decade! It leaves the reader and its intended audience with an opportunity to bond with other readers on a common, ongoing pursuit. While several factors were eliminated for simplicity and book length, it presents the reader with a bottom line: establishing a balance in the changes provided to us through technology and the person created in that world versus the life we live tangibly. Achieving this will give us the best shot at finding the ONE we want to love. Any book at encourages its readers to embrace change and keep in touch with reality is solid, in my honest opinion! He can't stop here! This book needs a sequel to explore other factors!
Modern Romance3By bretticusmanchesterA few funny and witty remarks, some interesting data, and an easy read. Heteronormative and limited in scope by necessity, but altogether a quick insightful look at romance in our hyper-technological world and society.