Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
By John Gray
- Release Date: 2009-10-13
- Genre: Family & Relationships
Description
The Phenomenal #1 New York Times Bestseller
In his classic guide to understanding the opposite sex, Dr. John Gray, provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication and relationships by acknowledging the fundamental gender differences between them.
Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.
Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this timeless book has helped men and women realize how different they can be in their communication styles, their emotional needs, and their modes of behavior, and offers the secrets of communicating without conflicts, allowing couples to give intimacy every chance to grow.
In this essential guide to understanding your partner, you’ll discover:
Conflict-Free Communication: Learn why men offer solutions when women just want to feel heard, and how to finally express your needs without starting an argument.Different Coping Mechanisms: Understand why men retreat to their “caves” under stress and how giving him space can make him spring back with more love and attention.Core Emotional Needs: Discover the six primary love needs of women (like caring and understanding) versus men (like trust and acceptance)—and why giving what you want to receive often fails.How to Score Points: See why for a woman, a single rose can mean as much as a vacation, and learn the little things that make a huge difference in keeping the love tank full.
Reviews
Not A Fan
1By NoelemahcaVery presumptive, unenlightened, and full of stereotypical nonsense.So old school, don’t read in the 21st century
1By BLL45689355Unless you’re a traditional person in a traditional relationship this book isn’t for you. As a female I found the examples insulting like we only like to shop and the advice horrible. I read 100 pages with my husband and we both quit reading.Rakan
5By Rakan2030I strongly recommend you get this book it is really informative and simple ain’t complicated at all and also it makes you wanna read it and don’t stop literally it is the best book I have read so far that visuals our life today well written 👌🏼Better relationship advice from a Mad Men
1By MAMADSHFor a modern relationship this book is misogynistic garbage. There are a FEW decent tidbits in here, specifically the intro and some portions on listening and communication. Queue eyes roll at the comparison that “men are like rubber bands” & “women are like waves” If you’re a reader with modern views on gender and the balance of a relationship find another book. If you like the idea that men can *essentially* do whatever they want with no repercussions and women are soft, emotional beings meant to just deal with a mans ego at the expense of her own mental health, then this read is for you.Still Worth It After Two Decades
5By LacunaMan1I read most of this book when it first came out in 1992, and as of early 2015, a lot of its wisdom is still valid. For the last 20+ years, I have enjoyed many conversations with men and women about this book. I read several of the reviews in iBooks, and I really had a few good laughs at the reviewers who gave the book one or two stars and parroted cliches like "stereotypes" or "not factual" or "not scientific," etc. Maybe some people will agree with these negative shibboleths, but this book is helpful and offers some good suggestions for couples (married or dating) to get along better. It's not a panacea, but worth the read. I'm not going to give a thorough review, I just recommend you buy the book at this affordable price. Start reading it, and see what YOU think. Too many folks today have to have an "expert" to give them permission to read something. Use your own common sense, and sort out the ideas that have staying power. Any book can be criticized, but none is perfect, save One. If you dismiss this book, you'll miss an opportunity to learn a few things about opposite sex relationships. Finally, I'm not politically correct saying this, but you may have a few ideas who some of the negative critics are. Some people just don't like same sex couples to get along and even be happy. I don't agree with everything the book says, but that is rather trite. Enjoy.Fiction
1By BenShermanFrom Mr. Gray’s doctorate to the final paragraph, this book is fiction. I had to read this for a Sociology course on “Marriage & the Family” to fulfill a requirement and, as an older student, I felt awful for the younger people, especially females in the class. I felt it insulted them, consistently. If a woman were what John Gray says she is, there would be no women doctors, nurses, lawyers, effective administrators, teachers etc. This book is misogyny masquerading as medicine.Stereotypes
1By jamleejoyI liked this book for the first 2 or three pages and then realized that it really was just a bunch of stereotypes about men and women. I had to read the book for a class ( couldn’t tell you which one) and it was just very hard to keep reading. I remember throwing it against a wall a few times and I believe after I finished with it I burned it. Can’t say it’s a good read.Love!
5By MrsCowartNot only did I learn about myself as a women, I was able to get a better understanding of how men work. I also understood how my past as a child affected into my relationship. Great book!A must read!!!
5By Artistic VeganIncredible book!!! I highly recommend this book for men and women, a must read! Great insights to my spouse and myself! My husband gave it to me to read and I'm forever grateful! A great bedside book to keep nearby!Why not on espanol
1By Pit 75Hard to find good books on espanol this book is on Italian why not on espanol fix this problem..Fantastic! A definite keeper!
5By orchid82This book is amazing. The depth of emotional analysis for men and women is really fascinating, and entirely correct. It is truly a gem and I only wish I had read this in my young twenties. However, now being thirty, and five years out from a divorce, I feel like I can truly appreciate what went wrong in that relationship. This book explained my entire relationship problems to a tee. On a positive note, this book has provided me a user's guide to navigate my own emotions, reactions and life while in a relationship. I have already started using the love letter suggestion, even though at first I was resistant to the idea. I was amazed at the immediate relief and healing I felt at a nagging issue that happened recently while dating. I would like to continue using a journal to express myself when past emotions arise out of nowhere, especially when I just can't seem to understand when I'm sad at a time when I should be happy. It has given me hope that maybe a relationship is a possibility with me in the future. As a woman, I felt John Gray's analysis was right on. If I am ever to get beyond the dating phase into a loving relationship, I would like to share this with my future partner. I definitely plan on rereading the book and using it as a reference when I encounter problems with the opposite sex. I am hoping that I can really understand where my partner is coming from, but just as importantly have him understand me too.Nice
5By Pocobella StellaBetter We Are Not on the Same Wave lengh as Mommie Dearest as Faye.I <3 it
5By IssajordanIm not in a relationship and im not reading this book to save a marriage , or any love relationship , this book can benefit many people to enrich their friendship and their family roots ive started to communicate with my friends efficiently !!The interpretation we all need
5By Lil' LambMy career is interpreting. Everyday, I help people with a need to communicate by bridging a linguistic gap. For 28 year I have been searching for an interpreter, I didn't know I needed, to bridge this linguistic gap I didn't realize existed. Thank you for the Rosetta stone I needed.Okey
5By loriannyPongalo en espanol isi no se inglesStereotypes abound, offers no real solutions
1By evanseesredI am a man in a troubled long-term relationship. My female partner is reluctant to talk about her feelings, is upset when I don't offer tangible solutions to her problems, never says i love you and squirms at my attempts to be romantic and carve out time to do coupley things. According to this book, this is utterly impossible that we even exist. The roles should be reversed on every issue i stated above apparently. Alas, I find myself in a complex relationship and know many other couples who are in them too. This book assumes that men hate talking about their feelings, that women are naturally subservient to men and will back down on an issue to placate their man, and that women often feel unappreciated for things they do while men really do not. For some, this generic view of male/female relationships may be of some value. For us, two people with complex personalities, backgrounds, egos and feelings, this 'one-size-fits-all' of a book was a waste of time.Stereotypes
1By eddiecoyoteNot based on research. A collection of stereotypes. You'd do better reading other books.Improve your understanding of the opposite sex
5By Inuit4lifeJohn Gray provides essential advice for any relationship in this book. His book provides great insight and understanding of the opposite sex. His metaphors and examples are simple enough for anyone to remember and apply to their life. I recommend Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus to anyone interested in a more fulfilling relationship with the opposite sex.The definitive book on understanding relationships
5By PhatphingerThis book isn't a prescription for how to fix a relationship - but it does provide valuable insight into how men and women look at relationship dynamics. And with that insight - you can better navigate the waters of the relationship ocean. Although she (he) never gave you an operator's manual this comes as close to as what you'll ever need.
