Attached
By Rachel Heller & Amir Levine
- Release Date: 2010-12-30
- Genre: Family & Relationships
Description
We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."
In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
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5By teacher 😊Very helpful book for therapistRead it
5By Roo444Very enlightening. I needed to read thisExcellent reading
5By Aivilo89It has been a huge relief for me to read this book and understand so many things. Truly life changing for meOk
3By AudJane23I found it informative but there’s alot of scenarios and examples, didn’t need so many. Would like more practice steps on how to become secure as an anxious. Currently single so can’t practice ! lolThis is a
5By TheSchmecklesGood bookIf you want to understand yourself and others… this is THE book!
5By Elle BanaHumans have different ways to connect with others, based on their childhood, relationship dynamics between their parents, and other experiences. This is the book to read if you want to understand whether you and others avoid connection, feel anxious when developing relationships with others, or have a secure mechanism do develop healthy relationships. I really like how the authors provide exercises to identify areas of improvement.Very practical and informative
5By MikeFlowtownThis was an excellent read. Not many books out there that are so forthcoming with data. Attached can be the difference maker in all relationships in your life.Attachment fundamentals
5By sasffvvdThis is a really good book that is easy to read and well structured. I learned about myself and others attachment styles that have helped me understand the various relationships I had in the past as well with current situations.Good reads
5By Hummingbird494Very helpful book.Amazing
5By MichaelangeloI always knew what was bothering me, I could see habits in my relationship but never understood why.. I knew it wasn’t the petty surface items that was so easy to pick a fight over. This book puts words to thoughts and doesn’t sugar coat anything. Saved me hundreds in therapy!