Attached
By Rachel Heller & Amir Levine
- Release Date: 2010-12-30
- Genre: Family & Relationships
Description
We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."
In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
Reviews
Wish I had discovered this book sooner
5By Paulie550Very good read. Ton of revelations.Obsessed with this book!
5By sbinahIt really served as a guide to increase awareness into my own attachment style & better navigate relationships with others. 10/10Helpful
5By teacher đVery helpful book for therapistRead it
5By Roo444Very enlightening. I needed to read thisExcellent reading
5By Aivilo89It has been a huge relief for me to read this book and understand so many things. Truly life changing for meOk
3By AudJane23I found it informative but thereâs alot of scenarios and examples, didnât need so many. Would like more practice steps on how to become secure as an anxious. Currently single so canât practice ! lolThis is a
5By TheSchmecklesGood bookIf you want to understand yourself and others⊠this is THE book!
5By Elle BanaHumans have different ways to connect with others, based on their childhood, relationship dynamics between their parents, and other experiences. This is the book to read if you want to understand whether you and others avoid connection, feel anxious when developing relationships with others, or have a secure mechanism do develop healthy relationships. I really like how the authors provide exercises to identify areas of improvement.Very practical and informative
5By MikeFlowtownThis was an excellent read. Not many books out there that are so forthcoming with data. Attached can be the difference maker in all relationships in your life.Attachment fundamentals
5By sasffvvdThis is a really good book that is easy to read and well structured. I learned about myself and others attachment styles that have helped me understand the various relationships I had in the past as well with current situations.Good reads
5By Hummingbird494Very helpful book.Amazing
5By MichaelangeloI always knew what was bothering me, I could see habits in my relationship but never understood why.. I knew it wasnât the petty surface items that was so easy to pick a fight over. This book puts words to thoughts and doesnât sugar coat anything. Saved me hundreds in therapy!Attached
5By Mom on nordic tracExcellent book. You learn so much about yourself and your past behaviors. It clears the air on life choices and events. Itâs a must read.Blown away!
5By Remi OwadokunI heard about the book but thought it was exaggerated, it wasnât! Itâs very very good and everyone wanting to get the best out of relationships needs to read this book.Amazing read
5By ToezzyGreat for learning and understanding your attachment style as well as the people around youMixed bag, bit judgmental
3By AsdfgholqyeiofbejwldbI enjoyed some of the insights this book offers but itâs clear the authors have an easier time relating to people with an anxious attachment style, than they are with avoidantly attached people. The writingâs on the wall in the very first example. The latter group tend to get cast as villains while itâs abundantly reinforced that the needs of the former group are valid. It also promotes people to âjustâ find a partner whoâs secure. Several of the examples of âeffective communicationâ, especially the one the book closes with are borderline manipulative. I learned stuff from this book, but unfortunately canât recommend it.A must read
5By VR~Very insightful!Dishonest
1By onenoneoneFor sure people address relationships in either an acceptance, anxious, or avoidance style, that is rather obvious. What the authors dance around is that likely 95% of the anxious people are female, and 95% of the avoidant people are male(homosexuals excepted). The authors do a politically correct tap dance around the elephant in the room and as such, the value of the book is degraded by their dishonesty. As one avoidant straight male, the most sought after females for a satisfying relationship are avoidant females, AKA Friends with Benefits; unfortunately avoidant females tend to be Lesbians for the most part. Another subject not covered in the book.â„ïž
5By Norma LaurentHelped me greatly very thankful â„ïž
