The Four Loves

The Four Loves (1960) Lewis examines four distinct forms of love to clarify how they differ, overlap, and can be either ennobling or destructive. Storge (affection) is the natural bond of family or familiarity, rooted in comfort and habit. Philia (friendship) arises when two or more people share a common interest or vision, making it voluntary and often overlooked but deeply enriching. Eros (romantic love) is the passionate desire that draws lovers together; Lewis explores both its beauty and its potential to become possessive or idolatrous. Finally, Agape/Charity (divine love) is the unconditional self-giving love of God, which completes and purifies the other three. Throughout, Lewis mixes classical, Christian, and personal examples, showing how each love can mirror the divine when rightly ordered or become distorted by pride and selfishness. The book offers a nuanced, practical meditation on how humans experience and can transform love in everyday life.