Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
By Lyn Kelley
- Release Date: 2011-07-03
- Genre: Family & Relationships
Description
New, updated version 2021. Therapist and Certified Relationship coach Dr. Lyn Kelley gives you the real lowdown on closed men. Rate your man on the "emotional unavailability scale." Why he shuts down emotionally, how to get him to open up, how to connect with him, how to create more intimacy, and how to make him fall deeply in love with you. She will help you understand his psyche, how to know if you should stay or leave. Plus: The best 15 strategies to handle an emotionally unavailable man. Here's what you'll discover:
Introduction:
Definition of emotionally unavailable
When you change, he changes
Whether or not your relationship can endure has to do with these 10 things
Chapter One: Common Signs of an Emotionally Unavailable Man
Why is he so afraid?
Signs of emotional unavailability
Chapter Two: What Causes Emotional Unavailability?
Learned behavior
Passivity
Passive resistance and passive aggressiveness
Weak and helpless men
Passiveness or weakness as a control strategy
Chapter Three: How Stunted Is He? A Continuum
Values vs ability
Quiet and reserved personality type
Conflict avoiders
Secretive
Hot and cold
In another relationship
Shiny ball syndrome
Alcohol and addictions
Control, anger and hostility
Chapter Four: Why We Are Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men
How EUM hook us in
The 4 reasons women choose EUM
Chapter Five: How You May Be a Cause of It
Change your perception
Why complaining doesn't work
K.I.S.S. (Keep It Short and Sweet)
Chapter Six: How to Connect With an Emotionally Unavailable Man
Best ways to get more intimacy
15 Strategies proven to work
Chapter Seven: How to Know if You Should Stay or Leave
Are you in love with HIM or a FANTASY?
You have the right to feel loved
Speak in simple truths
Would couples therapy help?
Chapter Eight: How to Break Up With an Emotionally Unavailable Man
Talk and walk
Should we just take a break?
You deserve to be happy
Bibliography
Reviews
Great read-Dr Kelley knows the mind of a man well
5By 28LululuDr. Kelley describes the do 's and dont's well. Men are more fragile than we think so bombarding them with criticism & put downs is pointless. I grew up around brothers and hanging out in my dads shop so i listened to how men communicated with one another and it very rarely was with high emotion or drama like many of us ladies like to do to our men today;as a little girl & I noticed with men they for the most part like to keep things light & fun,joking around with each other , & talking crap! I have found myself around 6 years ago being one of the biggest harping nag in my relationships, but once I grasped the concept Dr. Kelley talks About in regards to not making people's "wrong" it freed up so much more and un-needed suffering....i got back to learning how to "play" as an adult and having a good time. Great read, thank you Dr.Kelley!Emotionally unavailable men
4By Mericle01I loved this book. I was in a depression thinking it was all me, and trying to fix more within myself which is still always a great quality. This book helped me realize I am not the only problem in my failing relationship. Thanks for the great read!Loved It!
5By Seriously, DudeI've read several other books about emotionally unavailable men but this one is the best! Other books just tell you how to "understand" him but this one tells you how to "manage" him. I found the "scale" really helpful so I could know whether or not he's workable. I've tried some of her strategies and they really do work!
